Perhaps my title does not truly ask or define what Im looking for as a definiton/heading. You and decide and please enlighten me if you feel the need to correct my interpretation.
My wife and I have been married for 10 years, both of us have been married before but for one reason or another neither previous marriage worked out and then we met each other. We married and both of us found a happy median in daily life with each other, personalities differences, Sexual desires, ect ect and every thing else that comes along with a new relationship. Lets just say that I've been around the block more than my wife, her meeting me was a new thing sexually for her as she was from a small town and to put it bluntly was quite the prude when it came to out of the box sexual pleasures. I still to this day ask her what her "fantasies" are but get no solid answers at all. We have had many pillow conversations of what she is thinking of or what is her fantasy/desires are. I've explained to her that even research has shown that all people have fantasies/desires and that their is nothing to be embarrassed about especially talking to me, her own husband about but she just claims to be contempt with her sex life in this marriage. I've known her long enough that I know she is full of shit to claim she has no wild fantasies. Sometimes she goes all out on me, dresses up and lets me see the "wild side" as she states it to me,.....hence the pics I have posted. My wife has not been with many partners in her 50 year life so I know she is curious, has desires, and still has what it takes to fallow through with what she wants/desires and could get any man she chased. Being married to the same guy from what I've read can lead to a problem later in the relationship. Wemon need variety and not the same meal every night so to speak This I know for a fact because two years ago she had an affair twice with the same guy. I was devastated at first and blamed myself because of the reasons she told me why it happened. Later I did my own research and came to the conclusion that this was normal for most wemon who had been sexually deprived early in life. My wife had not been able to explore her needs or desires since high school untill a smooth talking guy came along and made her melt, the guy from the affair. It was her inner lust and needs of feeling wanted that took control of her, a strong and powerful human reaction in both men and wemon to fill the hunger she had and was deprived of most of her life. We worked through this because of the love I have for her and I forgave her for the same reason.
I never want to go through that again so I have been thinking that if she would have just brought it to my attention of what she desired in a more direct approach it could have been avoided. Was this a physical attraction or emotional? I will most likely never know but before this happened I had told my wife I had a fantasy of her fucking another guy while I was there and how the thought of her getting fucked and serviced by another man while I watched turned me on so much. I had also told her that if it were a mutual thing and not behind my back then it was not cheating or an affair but a mutual form of pleasure shared between a couple that thought outside of the box. She did not like my "fantasy" at the time but I know that she thinks of sexual desires just as much as everyone else who is alive.She had an insatiable sex drive when we met. Now that she has gone behind my back and we have worked through it with her I want to give my wife more in our marriage so that going behind my back will never happen again so that we can fill her needs (not that I cant, Variety is better), I dont want her getting board at all but rather talk to me about her fantasies so that we can make them happen. If my wife has a desire to "fuck" a guy OF HER CHOOSING, not mine because she is curious then I would be ok with it as long as I am present and it is agreed upon mutually. My interpitation of making love and fucking is this,: Making love is what you do with your lifes partner, its intimate, sensual, and from the heart that cannot be replaced by a one night stand or general fuck/lust session. Fucking is in my opinion this: A carnal animalistic need to have sexual pleasure, meaningless of emotion, purly physical and lustfull, an ability to be someone your not by escaping the daily mundane routines of relationships or lustfull fulfillment.
From what Ive researched as long as boundaries are set in place it strengthens relationships as long as both parties are in agreement.
I want my wife to be fulfilled in our marriage and I know she wants the same for me. The only desire I have is to watch her beautiful face in ectasy while she reaches a climax. I love her this much. The thought of another guy servicing her though multiple orgasms excites me very very much. I may want to join in or may decline just to watch but to see her satisfied is all I want. Even typing this I find myself getting a hard on thinking of her sucking and fucking another guy while I watch her enjoy herself in a heartless, emotionless act of physical pleasure. What other way to exclaim how much I love her to allow this for her with no jealousy or regrets afterwards as long as she has no emotions for the other man. Its something for true lovers at heart such as us to cherrish.
As stated earlier, she is prudish but she cant tell me after watching certain movies that she has no lustful desires after having an affair that she doesn't look and think or wonder "Damn he is hot" or I wonder what he would be like"I would gladly help her realize if she would communicate with me, I love her and she loves me with out a doubt. At the end of the evening she as well as her heart will always belong to me but to borrow her lovely body to pleasure her is a bonus for all involved.

He has got nothing over me she even told me he had a hard time getting it up and when he did it was a two pump and dump! I still have the girl
Only reason that happened with him was, she was feeling down about herself and he was able to say the right things to cheer her up at work. We have worked through that and she is sorry for what happened but still, there was the "desire" for her to fallow through with it. Hell we are all human and have kinks/desires/fetishes, if that were not so then we would not be here on this forum
The comments my wife gets here do help her esteem quite a bit so I am not really worried about a behind the back affair anymore. I guess I was really looking to get opinions and also so that she would eventually read this knowing Im ok with any desires she may have as long as it is mutual between the two of us, not behind my back, it could be great for us and would make some great photoshoots!.

One other thing I would like to ad. If this were to happen, knowing my wife, I think her biggest mindset fear would be to be branded a whore or slut and she hates that term due to her upbringing.She has always been the "good" girl hence the reason for the OP of her not being able to fully explore her fantasies and desires. I do not see it that way of her being a whore just because she has the opportunity to have the best of both worlds of, fulfilling her lusts desires and have a happy home life with the man that loves her and because it would be a pre discussed decision between the both of us, husband and wife with full consent ruling out any cheating. It would not be like she is on the hunt for strange cock every night but rather maybe a couple times a year or so when she feels wild and free spirited. Just because I would allow her to entice in the flesh pleasures would not brand her a whore or slut and fuck a different guy every night do you agree?
I am willing to let my wife have a life that most wives only dream about so that should speak volumes about my commitment and love for her. So would she be a slut whore if this is what I want and ask of her?